Regulate your emotions

Emotions are energy. Happy emotions increase energy and sad emotions drain it. If you express emotions freely, you might see yourself as a passionate person. It may seem like a great thing but know this - if you express happy emotions more openly, it's likely that you also show anger and frustration more easily. The reason being that you don't regulate your emotions. Conserve a bit of your energy, stop expressing them so freely. Think about your emotions. Be like a regulator for a gas cylinder whose job is to regulate gas and not let it all out in one burst. Imagine ne the consequences, if the gas cylinder didn't have a regulator.
Look back at your life. Has there been unregulated moments in your life? Have you had occasions when you nearly blew your relationships because of emotions?
It's not just about regulating negative emotions. Have you noticed people look at you strangely when you express happy emotions like excitement? It's not that thee is anything wrong with excitement, it may be seen as childish. Again, nothing wrong with childlike innocence. Sometimes it's better than being adult but when Yu are around other adults, especially work colleagues know that regulation of emotions is a skill highly praised for management positions. Cool head is also appreciated in professions that involve negotiating and presenting your case like union reps and lawyers.

You may not have thought of religion, but cool headedness is also encouraged in religion. When Sikhism talks of "Harakh sog te rahe niyara." , it's suggesting to refrain from extreme emotions.
Sikh scriptures also say, "
Jo nar Dukh me Dukh nahi mane.
Sukh saneh ar Bhei nahi Ja ke
Kanchan maati mane"
It means that those who don't become too sad in sad times and keep their head cool, can also perform their duties without worrying about their luxury, favouritism or fear because their decisions are not influenced by monetary rewards for oneself.
If people can work with what is best for an organisation, how can they not work with what's best for the humanity?
Financial sustainability and control of their market are best for any organisation but welfare of all human beings is best for humanity. The two are in conflict as a matter of principle. People are controlled by monetary rewards. The more an organisation is aware of the desperation of humans, the more chance it has of hiring labour by offering less money, hence increasing profits and financial sustainability. Humanity demands equity but it's hard to achieve because even the universe hasn't us all equity. Those born with diagnosed and undiagnosed disabilities have limitations of understanding and physical capabilities. Others who have become disfunctiona because of stresses in life als have different levels of motivations. When we all don't have the same level of motivation to succeed in life, how can we have equitable resources to thrive in this life?
May be we need to get back to scrutinising our emotions. How do we feel when someone drives a posh car and your car goes to mechanic for repairs every other day? Resentment?
How do you feel when you see news of people suffering due to natural disasters, accidents and war?
Detaching yourself from a situation doesn't mean not caring about someone. It simply means not upsetting yourself to the extent that you can't function anymore or can't think clearly. Getting back to the analogy of the gas regulator., we still need some emotion to keep the fire going, not cut the supply altogether. So keep the fire of your life going for longer by regulating your emotions.
Keep the fire of others life going by not hogging all the resources but releasing some to allow others to thrive. When others don't have the same luxuries as yourself, you have a responsibility to care but not be overwhelmed by the sorrows of this world. Do not worry that your actions can't change the world overnight but simply cherish the fact that it will make some difference. When your actions do make a difference, don't boast about the success but think how can the actions be implemented to increase the effect further. Remember, not everyone has the same resources as yourself.  Be the bridge between the two sides. Find a way to slide some resources from those who have more than you to those who have less. When you see physical strength and mental capabilities as resources, you suddenly see a whole lot of responsibility that we have been shrugging from. Just like a mother looks after her baby with love and care, without the monetary reward; look after those who are not so fortunate as yourself with regulated love and care.

Lazy Self likes to blame others

A person's first responsibility to themself is to stay in human form for as long as possible. To stay alive for the longest possible time, you need to stay healthy. Healthy bodies need a healthy mind. It seems that they actually go together. The more physical activity you do, the more your mind stays active and healthy. The same also goes for your involvement in the community. The more time you spend being involved in positive interactions with other people, the longer you will have the desire to live and your mind will stay away from the problem with balancing the body and dementia; the two troublemakers in the way of a long healthy life.

The second responsibility to self is to stay happy. Don't try to blame others for your unhappiness. Staying happy is a habit that needs to be formed. Get in the habit to notice yourself more often. Can I feel lines of stress on my forehead? Bring on a fake smile and see those stress lines vanish instantly. It's like the game of see-saw. Play the game of frowning and smiling and see for yourself. Once you realise this, you don't need any reason to smile, you simply need to smile. Find excuses to smile and be happy. Don't try to give me reasons why you are stressed and what problems in your life are stoping you from smiling; just smile. If you can't seem to smile without reason; try helping someone. Make someone's day and feel happy. I know you are too busy and even though you would like to do all that good in the world, you can't. Stop making excuses. Start from doing something for your partner, child, sibling or parent. Then get involved with a community group, social group or a religious group for just one hour a week. Make sure that hour is not spent on self gratification. You are not to get dressed up to show off or to sit in a cafe to indulge. This hour is dedicated to doing something for someone else's gratification. Oh, you never thought about that... ? Doesn't matter, now you know that you are not the only most important habitant on this planet. Every other being is equally important and today you will do something to make someone happy. No, it's not going to be your boss and you are not going to make the boss happy so one day he / she can help you get a raise. You are going to do something for someone who can't give anything back to you and even better doesn't even find out that you did something of value to them. Anonymous act or an act of kindness in a community group, so the credit doesn't just go to you but to the group. That's not fair, I know, because you are so use to making sure that it does even when you don't deserve it. Yep, that's because your parents raised you that way. They gave you undue praise and attention when you didn't deserve it but you started believing that sun only rises when you open your eyes. So you think, it's important that you get out of your lousy bed, so the world could have sunlight? No, that's not your act of kindness. The sun rises anyway! Does that mean that the world doesn't need you? Does that mean you should just die. No you monger. The is so much work to be done on this planet. The earth needed physical bodies to carry out those tasks. So it prayed for you to be born. Now get to work and do something to leave this a better place to live for the next generation. Can you? Yes, you can. What's in it for you? I told you already. The mechanism is built so that you only feel happy when you do something for someone else. It's also built in a way that the more hardwork you do, the longer the body can perform. That translates into longer life. So get off your butt and instead of planning your next holiday, plan something for this planet. Your plans are not for other to act on. When you plan, you need to get motivated to get the ball rolling. Once it starts rolling, ensure that you have a system in place to make it keep going indefinitely. That's why we say God is infinite, God is creative, and God is fearless. You are that God who is going to do because God is Kartapurakh, the doer as well.