Knowing the future - change it or not?

I was just looking at the Sikh calender to see important dates in Sep that might become my child's birthdate and the historical significance of those dates. I was expecting 18th Sep since 10th of August. Now that date is only two days away, 21st sounds better or 23th-24th and the speculation goes on.

 How interesting to find that Guru Nanak Dev ji gave the Guruship to Guru Angad Dev ji four days before he left his physical body - a clear indication that Guru Nanak always knew the grand plan of the universe and accepted it.
Gurpurb

Gurgadi Guru Angad Dev ji - 18 Sep
Joti jot Sri Guru Nanak Dev ji - 22 Sep

Another notable historical event is the departure of Guru Amar Das ji and Guru Ram Das ji falls on the same date, this year it is 16th Sep. The story goes that Guru Amar Das ji found out that his Son-in-Law Ram Das had a short life and he gave the remaining years of his life to Ram Das and made him the next Guru. I have been a non-believer that always suspected if such things are possible. So for people like me, its a proof that this is possible and the story is true. Otherwise, its a remote coincidence that the two depart this world on the same date of different years.
More info on Guru Amar Das ji on
http://www.sikhiwiki.org/index.php/Guru_Amar_Das
and on Guru Ram Das ji on
http://www.sikhiwiki.org/index.php/Guru_Ram_Das

For me, its still a delimma. Obviously, the 1st option is acceptance of God's Will. Sometimes in life, especially when its a decision of the death of a younger person, it can be difficult to accept. I wonder if it is necessary to sacrifice something to take another? I understand, especially after my prayer to Guru Nanak that did work; that spiritual energy can be converted into anything that can be the price you pay for your request. Now there is a good reason why we should worry more about collecting spiritual energy by regular meditation that worry about collecting money only, for security.

Read a beautiful story on the link I have pasted - Once during several days of rain while Guru Amar Das was riding by a wall which he saw was on the verge of falling he galloped his horse past the wall. The Sikhs questioned him saying; "O Master, you have instructed us, 'fear not death, for it comes to all' and 'the Guru and the God-man are beyond the pale of birth and death', why did you then gallop past the collapsing wall?" Guru Amar Das replied; "Our body is the embodiment of God's light. It is through the human body that one can explore one's limitless spiritual possibilities. Demi-gods envy the human form. One should not, therefore, play with it recklessly. One must submit to the Will of God, when one's time is over, but not crave death, nor invite it without a sufficient and noble cause. It is self surrender for the good of man that one should seek, not physical annihilation."

Gurbani

This Shabad is by Guru Amar Daas Ji in Raag Vadhans on Pannaa 587 
pauVI ]pourree ||
Pauree:
iqqu jwie bhhu sqsMgqI ijQY hir kw hir nwmu ibloeIAY ]thith jaae behahu sathasa(n)gathee jithhai har kaa har naam biloeeai ||
Go, and sit in the Sat Sangat, the True Congregation, where the Name of the Lord is churned.
shjy hI hir nwmu lyhu hir qqu n KoeIAY ]sehajae hee har naam laehu har thath n khoeeai ||
In peace and poise, contemplate the Lord's Name - don't lose the essence of the Lord.
inq jipAhu hir hir idnsu rwiq hir drgh FoeIAY ]nith japiahu har har dhinas raath har dharageh dtoeeai ||
Chant the Name of the Lord, Har, Har, constantly, day and night, and you shall be accepted in the Court of the Lord.
so pwey pUrw sqgurU ijsu Duir msqik illwit ilKoeIAY ]so paaeae pooraa sathaguroo jis dhhur masathak lilaatt likhoeeai ||
He alone finds the Perfect True Guru, on whose forehead such a pre-ordained destiny is written.
iqsu gur kMau siB nmskwru krhu ijin hir kI hir gwl gloeIAY ]4]this gur ka(n)o sabh namasakaar karahu jin har kee har gaal galoeeai ||4||
Let everyone bow in worship to the Guru, who utters the sermon of the Lord. ||4||

http://www.sikhsangeet.com/albumid80-Harjinder-Singh-(Sri-Nagar-Wale)-Satgur-Bachan-Tumhare.html

http://www.sikhitothemax.com/page.asp?ShabadID=2218


Sometimes, I find it difficult to search a shabad on a certain page. To search a page on the 'Sikhi to the max' site, simply replace the page number.
http://www.sikhitothemax.com/page.asp?SourceID=G&PageNo=587

sbid rqy iqnw soJI peI dUjY Brim Bulwie ]

sabadh rathae thinaa sojhee pee dhoojai bharam bhulaae ||

Those who are attuned to the Word of the Shabad, acquire understanding; the others wander, deluded by doubt.

pieAY ikriq kmwvxw khxw kCU n jwie ]

paeiai kirath kamaavanaa kehanaa kashhoo n jaae ||

They act according to their past actions; it is useless to talk to them.

mÚ 3 ]

siqguir syivAY sdw suKu jnm mrx duKu jwie ]

sathigur saeviai sadhaa sukh janam maran dhukh jaae ||

Serving the True Guru, one finds a lasting peace; the pains of birth and death are removed.

icMqw mUil n hoveI AicMqu vsY min Awie ]

chi(n)thaa mool n hovee achi(n)th vasai man aae ||

He is not troubled by anxiety, and the carefree Lord comes to dwell in the mind.

AMqir qIrQu igAwnu hY siqguir dIAw buJwie ]

a(n)thar theerathh giaan hai sathigur dheeaa bujhaae ||

Deep within himself, is the sacred shrine of spiritual wisdom, revealed by the True Guru.

mYlu geI mnu inrmlu hoAw AMimRq sir qIriQ nwie ]

mail gee man niramal hoaa a(n)mrith sar theerathh naae ||

His filth is removed, and his soul becomes immaculately pure, bathing in the sacred shrine, the pool of Ambrosial Nectar.

sjx imly sjxw scY sbid suBwie ]

sajan milae sajanaa sachai sabadh subhaae ||

The friend meets with the True Friend, the Lord, through the love of the Shabad.

Gr hI prcw pwieAw joqI joiq imlwie ]

ghar hee parachaa paaeiaa jothee joth milaae ||

Within the home of his own being, he finds the Divine Self, and his light blends with the Light.

pwKMif jmkwlu n CofeI lY jwsI piq gvwie ]

paakha(n)dd jamakaal n shhoddee lai jaasee path gavaae ||

The Messenger of Death does not leave the hypocrite; he is led away in dishonor.

nwnk nwim rqy sy aubry scy isau ilv lwie ]2]

naanak naam rathae sae oubarae sachae sio liv laae ||2||

O Nanak, those who are imbued with the Naam are saved; they are in love with the True Lord. ||2||

The two line that I have highlighted are very important. They give the hint on how to meditate.


 shjy hI hir nwmu lyhu hir qqu n KoeIAY ]sehajae hee har naam laehu har thath n khoeeai ||
In peace and poise, contemplate the Lord's Name - don't lose the essence of the Lord. 


After the chattering of the mind has stopped and you have started hearing / listening to the chant, stop chanting aloud. Chant within your mind in rhythm with your breath. As the listening becomes more focused on the God, stop the inner chant as well and just contemplate on the feeling. Feeling is the essence. This is what was missing when you first started chanting aloud. That chanting was for the mind. Now with the feeling, its from the heart with a feeling of unconditional love.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vybaO0bYM0U&feature=channel_video_title

Three treasures of Daoism / Taoism

Right portal - 3rd eye
Five holy signals - Five sacred words - oo thai fo mila
The holy hand seal


According to Dao / Tao philosophy, one must know of the right portal to go to at the time of death. This portal is the 3rd eye from which one travels. The two eyes are the two robbers that rob us of the true knowledge. The right path is the portal of the 3rd eye which shows the truth. When meditating, keep the tongue on the roof of the mouth - the palate.

When one reaches the door of the heaven, he / she is stopped by the gatekeeper and asked for the five sounds / words. If one forgets these five words then he /she can't enter the heaven. These sounds are a secret that must never be spoken in front of a person who is not initiated and mustn't be spoken aloud as the devils can hear these words and can then enter the heaven. One must also know the holy hand signal.

Here is the info about the 3rd treasure - holy hand seal. The blog below is talking about nurturing love as the meaning of the hand seal but its more than that. Hand seal mentions something 12 of life and 13th being the God. The thumb of the right hand is kept at the base of the ring finger which is the end and the thumb of the left hand hold the base of the little finger which is the new beginning, while the four fingers of the left and cover the right hand. The counting is bit weird. All four points of the little finger and the index finger are counted but for the ring finger, the middle finger and the thumb only the tip is counted. Dao suggests to its followers to make the holy hand seal in case of a natural disaster and recite the five words while focusing on the 3rd eye and assured that by doing this no harm will come to the person concerned.
http://grant-ikuantao.blogspot.com/2009/01/holy-symbolic-seal.html


http://www.daoistcenter.org/personages.html

I am interested in this stuff as I see the similarity. When we read gurbani, it talks of the Panch Shabad Tit Ghar Sabhage, Kala jit ghar dhariya - five sounds.
Guru Nanak's story tells of him stopping while counting as he reached number 13 and said Tera.
Offcourse, it advices to close the worldly eyes and open the 3rd eye.
But what's the deal with doing the hand seal physically, I don't understand.

Kundalini and Pranic energy combination (in Panjabi)

I found this in my old emails that I had sent. Useful info about combining Kundalini and Pranic energy.

Kundalini energy sap (Snake) di chaal  chadi hai te aag (Fire element and female emergy hai). Kundalini de ikdam gir ke 1st or 2nd chakra point tak aan karke gussa te hor vikara val khhich pendi hai. Kundalini jehre chakra point te tiki hundi hai, us chakra diyan tendencies insaan display karda hai. Kundalini di shakti nu dimag naal kabu nahi kita ja sakda.

Kundalini da achanak upar thale hona khatarnak hunda hai. Kundalini da jawaab Pranic energy hai. Pranic energy da tatv pani ( Water element and Male emergy hai). Chinese Qigong mediation wale is nu Heaven energy kahinde hai.

Gurbani vich Bagatan di bani vich paroge - Bin badal barkha hoi. Is vaak vich kise bhagat ne apne mediation de experience nu likiya hai.

Pranic energy dasam dwar (sir) ton ik hath di doori te ik badal di taran hai. Is nu khich ke dasam dwar to andar le ana hai. Yogi chandi di taar da example deke vi is nu darshaan di koshish karde hai. Jado tusi is energy naal connect hunde ho ta Sir (head) te halka pressure feel hunda hai. Is energy di chaal ik chharne (waterfall) di taran siddi hai. Jado kirpa hundi hai ta Barish hon da bhulekha hunda hai, fir chharna chal painda hai. Pani di speed nu tusi control nahi kar sakde. Jinni jyadi kirpa hoigi unni speed jyadi hoigi.

Mera khayal hai ke Kundalini Energy te Pranic energy de milan nu Ruhani Viyah kiha janda hai. Shabadan vich 'Mera Pir Ghar Aya' parya hoiga.

Eh sab galan sangat nu na dasan karke main Giani Thakur Singh ji to upset hoi si. Par hun samajhdi han ke uhna ne theek kita. Naam japan vale nu eh kuch dasna nahi panda. Te duniyavi insaan nu je das vi deyo ta uh naam japan nahi lagda, karam japan nahi dinde.

Baba Makhan Singh ji ne Kundalini bare stage te thora dasya si. Bahut kitaban vich Kundalini bare likhya mil janda hai. Par Pranic energy bare koi nahi dasda. Shayad bahut Sikhan nu is da naam na pata hove. Te eh vi nahi dasde ki Kundalini te Pranic energy nu mix karna hai. Main dasan vich koi haraj nahi samajhdi, kyonki karna ta sabnu apna apna hai. Jis te Guru di kirpa hoigi uh hi kar sakde hai. Bakiyan nu na time milda hai, na hi utshah jagda hai.

Eh youtube video meditation bare hai te bahut ache tarike naal Pranic energy nu dikhanda hai.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e0rSmxsVHPE

Meditation below is copied from the source http://www.mnwelldir.org/docs/qigong/meditation.htm

Next you will picture the heaven energy coming down through the top of your head, neck, shoulders, into your back, down your back, and when it reaches the hands, comes into the palms of your hands (which are face up) and up your arms to your shoulders where it travels down your body to your perineum.

At this point, it continues straight down the ground and down your legs. It finally spills out your feet (about a foot or so) into the ground where it splashes up and through you and out your head where it starts its journey again.

The really tough part of this meditation is to try and picture both energies traveling through you at the same time. Spend five, ten, fifteen minutes picturing this flow of energy through you and about you.

Questions about God. Why should I meditate - to suck-up to GOD?

My mother like any other religious woman tried her hardest to make me believe in God and do my prayers, go to the temple and also do chanting meditation. My question use to be 'Why'? I saw God as a selfish person who likes people who praise HIM and suck-up to HIM. I didn't see this as a very Godly expectation. I have my EGO and Pride. Why should I repeat his name and try to please him so he might give me what I want in my life. It was dis-empowering exercise in my opinion. For a child, who believed in making her own destiny, for someone who believed that the word 'IMPOSSIBLE' shouldn't be in my dictionary, chanting God's name was a very big waste of time. I could achieve anything that I set my mind to. All I had to do was make up my mind about what I want and make a plan and enforce it. Simply scientific and logical person I was, that believed in doing and not just dreaming. I achieved my goals and always considered myself as a successful person. Success meant material success. That's all there was to achieve!

Now I believe in meditation. Have I changed? Am I illogical and unscientific now?  My partner can't cope with this meditation stuff. He believes that it's a big waste of time. Where do you stand? Do you have an opinion. Off-course you do. But the point is, are you interested in KNOWING THE TRUTH? Why thousands of people meditate? Who is God? Where is HE? What is the purpose of creating is universe? If there is no GOD then who created it, How and Why? Why do we only live up to 90-100 years of age? Why life starts going down-hill after 40?

We all have that curiosity. We all want to live longer. Some consider 100 years of age as long life and some greedy one's like me think of those mystics who lived up to 6000 years of age. How do people achieve results beyond our comprehension?

MEDITATION is contemplation, another way of Self-empowerment, Self-hypnotism, a way to work out what we want in this life beyond material success and a way to find answers to questions about the creator of this universe. The terminology used by spiritual people may be slightly different but notice carefully and you will find that a materially successful person and a magician both apply the same principles to achieve their goals. A businessman calls it a GOAL and a MAGICIAN calls it INTENT. One uses material wealth and the other uses the mental energy from within. FOCUS on the goal /intent is vital in both cases. There is a slight difference in a spiritual person and a magician but there are a lot of similarities. Besides, a spiritual person can be a magician but the opposite is not always true.

What is GOD? Where is HE? Why am I pleasing God?
According to OSHO, Sikhism is EK ONKAR SATNAM. Osho said that the rest of the Japji Sahib uttered by Guru Nanak Dev ji, the founder of Sikhism is simply an effort to expain Ek onkar (God is One) Satnam (His name is TRUTH). Further in the Sikh scripture 'Sri Guru Granth Sahib', it is written

Ekas bin nahi duja koi
There is no other than the ONE.

According to Sikhism, God is formless who is ever present in every particle of this creation. If we apply this philosophy to our own body, God is within every cell of our body. HE is as much within us as is in the rest of the creation.
Gurbani says,
Antar tere nidhan hai, bahar vast na bhal.
God energy is within you, don't try to find it outside.
Ik vast agochar pai
I found a non-physical, untangible item within me.

Re-programming the body cells
Maureen J. Kelly writes in the 'Reiki and the healing buddha' on p.54, "Every cell in our body is a living being. A cell is a microcosm of the whole body and contains its own memory of any hurt or trauma it has experienced and will utilise this memory when responding to any further real or imagined hurt or trauma. This response can manifest in the body as an allergy or pain or depression". Meditation helps us re-program our body cells, get rid of negative reactions and infuse optimism within us.

Am I to please God?
See this universe as a vast ocean and each of us as a drop in it. Our EGO and our DESIRES fill some air in this drop and turn a drop into a bubble. Now the Ego-bubble sees itself as above the ocean, separate from the rest of the ocean. The Ego-bubble expects the ocean to respect his needs and consider him  before any waves are formed. The ocean has a different vibration due to the volume and velocity of water it carries. It is in the interest of the Ego-bubble to understand the ocean and its course, than to expect the ocean to respect the Ego-bubbles desires and goals. To understand the ocean, the bubble must either eradicate its ego or wait for its natural death.
Gurbani says,
Jeevat mare so mar-jeevarah hoi
Aisi marni jo marai fir bahur na marna hoi
Those who learn to eradicate Ego and desires to understand God, then don't have to wait for the natural death of the physical body for this understanding.
  

Sadho Rachna Ram Banai sung in Raag
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vYT0UfXAcps&NR=1

http://www.facebook.com/pages/I-love-this-Raagis-Shabad-Kirtan/115560045166771?sk=wall

What feelings block the chakras?

The cartoon show 'Avatar: the air bender' is a kids show that teaches about the subtle energy and the true potential that we all have. In one episode, the Avatar goes to a master to open his chakras. The master describes -
1st Earth Chakra is about SURVIVAL instinct and is blocked by FEAR (100)
2nd Water Chakra is about PLEASURE and is blocked by GUILT (30).
3rd Fire Chakra is your WILLPOWER and is blocked by SHAME / DISAPPOINTMENT (20).
4th Heart Chakra is about unconditional LOVE and is blocked by GRIEF / LOSS (75)
5th Sound Chakra is about TRUTH and is blocked by LIES that we tell ourselves. We have to accept who we are.
6th Light Chakra is about INSIGHT and is blocked by ILLUSION. Get rid of the illusion that you are separate. Don't see the duality but the connectedness.
7th Thought Chakra is blocked by earthly ATTACHMENTS. Learn to let go.

Energy level and corresponding emotions/ attitudes, according to David R. Hawkings.
20 Shame
30 Guilt
50 Apathy
75 Grief
100 Fear
125 Desire
150 Anger
175 Pride
200 Courage
250 Neutrality
310 Willingness
350 Acceptance
400 Reason
500 Love
540 Joy
600 Peace
700-1000 Enlightenment


http://howtoopenchakras.com  This website helps you diagnose which blocked chakras are responsible for the different problems you may be experiencing. Please visit this site for further help. The material below is copied as is on the site -

Please take a moment and reflect on some of the challenges you’ve experienced this past year,month,week, or even this very day.

• Are you experiencing problems with your physical health?
• Do you find yourself procrastinating all the time and never seem to accomplish your goals?
• Is money issues or your home a constant trigger of stress and anxiety for you?
• Do you physically hurt yourself?
• Have you ever attempted or contemplated suicide?

If you answered “yes” to any of the questions above, your troubles may be caused by a blocked or unbalanced root chakra.

• Do you find yourself emotionally unstable?
• Do you tend to hide or control your feelings?
• Are you lacking creativity and the ability to think outside the box?
• Is it difficult for you to be open to intimacy?
• Do you have sexual issues such as impotence?
• Is it difficult for you to live in the present moment?

If you answered “yes” to any of the questions above, you may have a blocked or unbalanced sacral chakra.

• Do you seem to have a lack of focus in life and an inability to concentrate?
• Are you constantly worried about what other people think?
• Do you seem to have a lack of self-esteem and confidence in yourself?
• Is your mind often clouded and you find it hard to make decisions?
• Do you find yourself taking on more responsibility than you can reasonably handle?
• Are you often obsessed with making sure everything you do is perfect?
• Is it difficult for you to be alone?

If you answered “yes” to any of the above questions, your trouble may be linked to your navel chakra.

• Do you have difficulty accepting yourself the way you are or lack self-love?
• Are you experiencing a lack of freedom in your life?
• Do you have difficulty making up your mind and find yourself indecisive?
• Are you always saying “yes” to other people’s demands and requests?
• Is it difficult for you to “put your foot down” and simply say “no” to people?
• Do you fear rejection or being abandoned by other people?
• Do you struggle with jealousy and find yourself envious of others?

If you answered “yes” to any of the above questions, you may need to open or balance your heart chakra.

• Do you have difficulty expressing yourself and your beliefs?
• Do you lack trust in others?
• Does your life lack organization?
• Do you constantly worry about financial security and constantly chase material things?
• Are you shy by nature and have trouble holding a conversation with other people?

If you answered “yes” to any of the questions above, this could be linked to a blocked or unbalanced throat chakra.

• Do you lack intuition or insight in life?
• Are you constantly hanging onto negative thoughts and find it difficult to overcome fear or anxiety?
• Do you find yourself living in a fantasy or dream world and not in reality?
• Do you struggle with depression or always feel lonely?
• Are you too hard on yourself and lack self-pride?

If you answered “yes” to any of the questions above, you may need to open or balance your third eye chakra.

• Does your life lack spirituality or a connection to God?
• Do you lack a sense of purpose in life?
• Do you lack faith in any religion or form of spirituality because you are too caught up with yourself or ego?

If you answered “yes” to any of the questions above, you may need to open or balance your crown chakra.

Hopefully you are now able to properly diagnose yourself, and identify which of your chakras are blocked or unbalanced. This is the first step in overcoming any challenges you may be experiencing.

All there is left to do now is learn how to open your chakras and properly balance them.

There are many different methods to do this including kundalini yoga,mantra chanting, and even meditation.

The website http://www.666blacksun.com/Open_Blocked_Chakras.html gives simple ways to open your chakras.

I do the chakra breathing. Know the chakra points and breath into each point at a time and feel the chakra expanding with each breath. You could visualise your breath as a poking stick touching the chakra point from the spine and going out from the front or vise-versa. The point is to activate energy in that area. 

At the beginning of your meditation, start with the base chakra and activate all chakras one by one with equal number of breaths on each point. Then focus on a specific chakra that you feel is blocked more than others. I followed Samuel Sagan's advice and focused on my 3rd eye 1st. Then I realised that Guru Nanak's advice was to open the HEART chakra, so I focused on that. For some time, I was focusing on the 3rd eye, heart and 7th chakra. Little did I know then, that the bottom chakras are equally important.


Opening the bottom two chakras without opening the 3rd eye can be very dangerous as they are related to survival and sex. Most people have these chakras open anyway. However, if you only focus on the top three chakras, without activating the bottom chakras, you can feel disoriented and not interested in the worldly affairs. This feeling can ruin your married life as you will have no interest in family matters etc. If your partner is not into meditation, he/she will not understand what you are going through. Sometimes, this feeling is called spiritual depression. It is not a desirable situation either. 


Do not forget to slightly close the chakras, at the end of your meditation; otherwise you will become extra sensitive to other people's energies and also become vulnerable to psychic attacks. I have made this mistake as well, so I know it well now.

Karo daya mere sai

Tum karo daya mere sai

Aisi mat deejai mere swami, sad sada tud dyayin

Have pity on me, O my lord and master

Bless me with such understanding, that I may meditate on you forever and ever!

http://www.sikhnet.com/audio/tum-karo-daya-mere-sai-0

Human interactions, Karma / sacred contract, love and oneness

According to the book 'Sacred contract' we are destined to have interaction with certain people / souls in our life but what kind of interactions they would be is up to us to decide in this life. For me, this is life transforming. Based on this, I now believe that any negative interactions that we have with anyone, are a result of our choice that we have made now. Therefore, divorce is a choice issue, not a destiny. Yet when it comes to marriage, I am still not sure if its a choice or destiny. I am more inclined to believe that it is destined.

Where does that leave us with the issue of how many children a couple should have? My own experience tells me that each of my children came in my life at a certain time when I needed a certain kind of experience. Each of them have something unique to teach me. I am not their mother = the boss. I am here to learn certain lessons from these developed souls. At the same time, these souls needed to learn something from me. It's a mutually beneficial situation. We need to be aware that with negligence and with a little help from the ego; its easy to turn any of these relationships into negative interactions. This is where Gurbani lines like
'Na ko bairi nahi begana; sagal sang mohe ban ai' - 
'There are no enemies nor strangers; I am an ally of all.';  are very important. The way forward is to have friendly association with all, be aware and learn the lessons we came to learn in this lifetime. The more aware we are, the quicker we will learn our lessons and develop our souls. Therefore, lessor lifetimes we will need to reach our destination.

Now I would like to contradict myself. There is no destination as such, as far as God is concerned. Gurbani says
'Sahib mera neet nava' - God is forever new / progressive. A destination would mean stagnation. There is an ultimate motive for this creation but the plan keeps on expanding until when God decides to contract itself. At the moment we are in the expansion mode.

So what is the ultimate motive? I believe its to teach us that we are all one - Ek onkar. We are not in competition with one another, nor are we better or worse than each other. Each of us is a very important cog in the wheel. We are all serving a purpose. There is no need for us to judge each other. Each of us is trying to learn our lesson of LOVE and ONENESS. Love at the very least brings tolerance, followed by acceptance of others as they are and at highest level brings the feeling of compassion, gratitude and unconditional love for all.

So the purpose to find God is to sit in the heaven happily ever after? I don't believe in this fairy-tale anymore. I see God as a creator / a doer. God likes to create happiness, blissfulness by beautifying whatever is. The story of evolution will tell you that all species are developing into more sophisticated/ complex creatures as we progress. I believe God is happier to see us bring happiness and beauty in fellow travelers  lives. Meditation is important to keep our connection and communication with the formless to take directions and advice from the superconscious / the invisible / the guides and the spirits that also want to achieve in a certain direction but sometimes can't without a physical body's help. Since GOD IS ONE, we are all one; we are better placed if we work towards mutual benefit and not against each other. Therefore, its not of any use to criticize anyone but to show direction by doing the right thing ourselves as EGO doesn't let us see the other as right / better in any way. We must keep doing what seems right for all and look for ways to beautify someone's life / this world / Karam-bhoomi / a place where actions count.

From the above angle, every negative interaction that we have in life, is our mutual failure; not win for one and lose situation for the other. For when we die and reach the Dharamraj's darbar / the Court of Justice; there we are shown the movie of our own life but from the perspective of the other's feelings. Everytime you win in this life and someone else looses in the same deal, what eventually counts is the feeling left in the other person. You are accountable for making someone feel miserable. For that someone is no other but part of the same God, a part of yourself. The moment, the feeling of injustice comes; there comes the karma that sows the seed for the next interaction that must happen to give the two souls another chance to resolve the issue. Every interaction is an opportunity to resolve a previous issue/ ill feeling or feeling of attachment.

The other side of the story is about the times when others leave you feeling bad. Now comes the story of FORGIVENESS. The moment you truly forgive someone for a wrong doing, you release yourself from the interaction; for there is no need to get even, as far as you are concerned. Don't just forgive the other for his/her ignorance but also pray for the other to be given better understanding from the divine, so the wrong-doer can also understand the far-reaching consequences of negative interactions.

God is in no hurry for you or for anyone else to find the right path, as God leaves you to your free-will. At the end of the day, you have to choose to understand the creator, so you can work with HIM; understand the principles on which he has created this universe and to become one with his verse.

Until then, the game is merely your ego's fight against someone else's ego. Ego plays the game of Win-lose, more for me and less for you, I am right, you are wrong and I am better than others; the game of duality and separation.