Human interactions, Karma / sacred contract, love and oneness

According to the book 'Sacred contract' we are destined to have interaction with certain people / souls in our life but what kind of interactions they would be is up to us to decide in this life. For me, this is life transforming. Based on this, I now believe that any negative interactions that we have with anyone, are a result of our choice that we have made now. Therefore, divorce is a choice issue, not a destiny. Yet when it comes to marriage, I am still not sure if its a choice or destiny. I am more inclined to believe that it is destined.

Where does that leave us with the issue of how many children a couple should have? My own experience tells me that each of my children came in my life at a certain time when I needed a certain kind of experience. Each of them have something unique to teach me. I am not their mother = the boss. I am here to learn certain lessons from these developed souls. At the same time, these souls needed to learn something from me. It's a mutually beneficial situation. We need to be aware that with negligence and with a little help from the ego; its easy to turn any of these relationships into negative interactions. This is where Gurbani lines like
'Na ko bairi nahi begana; sagal sang mohe ban ai' - 
'There are no enemies nor strangers; I am an ally of all.';  are very important. The way forward is to have friendly association with all, be aware and learn the lessons we came to learn in this lifetime. The more aware we are, the quicker we will learn our lessons and develop our souls. Therefore, lessor lifetimes we will need to reach our destination.

Now I would like to contradict myself. There is no destination as such, as far as God is concerned. Gurbani says
'Sahib mera neet nava' - God is forever new / progressive. A destination would mean stagnation. There is an ultimate motive for this creation but the plan keeps on expanding until when God decides to contract itself. At the moment we are in the expansion mode.

So what is the ultimate motive? I believe its to teach us that we are all one - Ek onkar. We are not in competition with one another, nor are we better or worse than each other. Each of us is a very important cog in the wheel. We are all serving a purpose. There is no need for us to judge each other. Each of us is trying to learn our lesson of LOVE and ONENESS. Love at the very least brings tolerance, followed by acceptance of others as they are and at highest level brings the feeling of compassion, gratitude and unconditional love for all.

So the purpose to find God is to sit in the heaven happily ever after? I don't believe in this fairy-tale anymore. I see God as a creator / a doer. God likes to create happiness, blissfulness by beautifying whatever is. The story of evolution will tell you that all species are developing into more sophisticated/ complex creatures as we progress. I believe God is happier to see us bring happiness and beauty in fellow travelers  lives. Meditation is important to keep our connection and communication with the formless to take directions and advice from the superconscious / the invisible / the guides and the spirits that also want to achieve in a certain direction but sometimes can't without a physical body's help. Since GOD IS ONE, we are all one; we are better placed if we work towards mutual benefit and not against each other. Therefore, its not of any use to criticize anyone but to show direction by doing the right thing ourselves as EGO doesn't let us see the other as right / better in any way. We must keep doing what seems right for all and look for ways to beautify someone's life / this world / Karam-bhoomi / a place where actions count.

From the above angle, every negative interaction that we have in life, is our mutual failure; not win for one and lose situation for the other. For when we die and reach the Dharamraj's darbar / the Court of Justice; there we are shown the movie of our own life but from the perspective of the other's feelings. Everytime you win in this life and someone else looses in the same deal, what eventually counts is the feeling left in the other person. You are accountable for making someone feel miserable. For that someone is no other but part of the same God, a part of yourself. The moment, the feeling of injustice comes; there comes the karma that sows the seed for the next interaction that must happen to give the two souls another chance to resolve the issue. Every interaction is an opportunity to resolve a previous issue/ ill feeling or feeling of attachment.

The other side of the story is about the times when others leave you feeling bad. Now comes the story of FORGIVENESS. The moment you truly forgive someone for a wrong doing, you release yourself from the interaction; for there is no need to get even, as far as you are concerned. Don't just forgive the other for his/her ignorance but also pray for the other to be given better understanding from the divine, so the wrong-doer can also understand the far-reaching consequences of negative interactions.

God is in no hurry for you or for anyone else to find the right path, as God leaves you to your free-will. At the end of the day, you have to choose to understand the creator, so you can work with HIM; understand the principles on which he has created this universe and to become one with his verse.

Until then, the game is merely your ego's fight against someone else's ego. Ego plays the game of Win-lose, more for me and less for you, I am right, you are wrong and I am better than others; the game of duality and separation.